All posts tagged: Family

Seeing Children and Family Life through the Eyes of Goodness

By Leslie Gossett // Have you ever noticed how often humans operate from the premise of there being a problem? Whatever is happening, it is not the right thing. There is something to be fixed. The coffee isn’t strong enough. The temperature is too hot. It’s too cold. We are hungry. We are stuffed. We are tired. We don’t want to go to bed. It’s completely endless. We even take this extreme into how we relate to other people. We begin to view them through the eyes of wanting them to be different. We want them to look differently, feel differently, and act differently. This desire can be subtle. And usually it happens most toward those closest to us, especially our children. Children are constantly and exhaustingly bombarded with admonitions of, “stop that,” “sit still,” “be quiet,” “we don’t say that,” “you can’t do that here,” “stop crying,” “stop running,” “don’t put that there,” “act like a big girl,” “don’t be a baby,” and the list could go on. Adults are not exempt from such …

Floral Notes and Bardo: Family and Family — Circle

Floral Notes and Bardo: The Creative Chronicles of a Shambhala Mountain Resident is a regular feature on the SMC blog in which a member of our staff/community shares his experience of existing as part of Shambhala Mountain Center. I take refuge in the sangha, as support for traveling the path. This morning I met with the Care Council, to open and share a deep, murky, entangled, situation that I am doing my best to navigate well. It has to do with kin in dire straits. We sat in a circle — I used to sit as a member of the Care Council and offer space and feedback to people who are in states of like I have been experiencing recently. I opened up and spoke all about the situation, offering information and a bit of emotional tone.  It was a vulnerable feeling, especially before we began.  Sitting in the room waiting for the others to sit on their cushions.  I was contemplating the teachings on emptiness, and considering how solid things can feel.  But the solidity …